The problem with speed dating
But how? I blurted, “Let's go speed dating.” She said, “Okay.” And that was that. At a minimum, we could laugh about the experience together. When you're speed dating, there's really no telling what you're going to run into. Without a doubt, you'll meet some real losers who are excited about meeting. I've never tried speed dating but it seems like too much effort to meet a very small group of ppl.. I've met a few losers on online dating but I've also met some.
A little background about myself. I'm an Asian-Canadian guy. Grew up in Canada. I'm as "white" as they come in that I grew up with few people of my ethnic background. My tastes and the kind of person I am has little to do with my heritage although I do feel a connection with certain Asian-Canadians and Asian-Americans. I'm an open-minded guy and can be attracted to girls of all races, especially as I get older and meeting different kinds of people.
I'm a career-oriented guy and if you met me, you might mistaken me as someone who is trying to show off but honestly, it's only because I'm passionate about what I do. Besides work, I like to travel and have drinks with friends and chill. In other words, I'm as normal as they come.
I wouldn't describe myself as attractive but I'm not weird or unattractive either. Maybe a bit boring but then some people find me very interesting. I guess that's the way with a lot of people.
So I was nervous as hell before this event. I didn't want to share this with my friends so it's not like I could turn to them for comfort.
Are speed dating or online dating for losers, or the desperate?
It's something I wanted to try out for myself. I also don't know of anyone personally who tried this out. I read some things about it online and got a lot of horror stories.
But I also read some stuff that said positive things about it. I was so nervous I took a shot of whiskey before I went. Ok so overall it was a positive experience.
It was a good vibe. I showed up about ten minutes early and got a chance to chat with some people there. It's all very normal people. No weirdos or anything like that. Also, the guys there aren't hostile at all. In fact, they were all friendly.
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They were for the most part all professionals and seemed well educated and just for whatever circumstance and situation they were in, found it difficult to get out there and meet girls. I was a bit nervous that it'd be full of insecure guys who feel competitive but that definitely wasn't the case.
As for the girls, I was actually quite impressed. Even though there were less girls than guys 8 girls vs 10 guysthe "quality" was good. It's mostly the same story. Professional and well-educated girls who are overall attractive and "interesting" but for whatever reason, found it difficult in meeting guys.
The hosts were really professional too. There was an open bar and you could order drinks. And it was just a good vibe overall. The venue was good too. It took place at a club and they closed off the whole section so nobody would interrupt.
Basically, my nervousness evaporated within the first 20 minutes and after a beer or two. So I'm not going to go into the details of all my interactions.
But here are some pros and cons I got out of it. Pros - Realization that there's really no shame in being single and that it happens to us all. The quality of both the girls and guys there are good.
There are no weirdos or anyone who was single for good reasons.20 vs 1: Speed Dating 20 Guys - Brennan
It's just a bunch of people who are taking a chance and trying to find a connection. The hosts are women and they put you at ease if it's your first time.
Also there's an open bar so you can order some drinks to calm the nerves. It's kind of like any success you achieve in life. If you listened to the hype surrounding the concept, you'd think it was tailor-made for visiting supermodels and over-worked young execs who don't have time to get among it and crack on.
From a male perspective, I don't know many guys who can't make time for carousing. From a female perspective Nonetheless, if my mind wasn't completely open to speed dating, it was ajar and, after two hours talking to strange women, it creaked open a little further.
The 11 women I met seemed genuine in their desire to meet a man. I felt weirdly privileged to step into their lives and hear their dreams, even it was for just eight minutes. Advertisement But as one of my mates said when I told him about the experience, "Why do you need eight minutes?
Thirty seconds is enough. Speed dating removes this choice. You arrive and you're limited to the women on offer. And if you're not attracted to any of them, it's really just going through the motions.