Blind Dating: Looking for Love in the Digital Age - Visually Impaired: Now What? - VisionAware
In a Tinder world, dating is based on images. So if you can't see, connecting gets more complicated. Dating a sighted person means having a sighted guide when some idiot smashes into you and breaks your cane on your way to class; Dating a blind person. But would be very interesting to hear your own experiences of dating or meeting people if you are blind or partially sighted. Like do you get out.
Online dating websites for the blind and visually impaired are creating a presence on the Web. Although barely a dozen dating websites for the blind are currently available, the number of registered members on the live chat The For the People dating website for the blind is a free social networking site. Users need a microphone and a sound card to interact on this website.
Users create a screen name and password upon registration. Personal identities are not shared unless site members choose to offer the information with other users.
Graphic language is not permitted on this dating site. Downloading "Simple Software" is necessary to interact in the site's chat rooms. The website will prompt users to download the free software when registering for membership. Members need to press the left Control key to speak with other chat room participants.
A beeping signal from the website will note when a member can take a turn to speak in the chat room. An online shopping link and donation option is available for site members. BlindSpots, Dating 4 the Disabled BlindSpots is a free dating and social networking service for the blind and visually impaired. Specialized website tools allow members to create blogs and chat with potential dates. For additional information visit their website see Resources below.
The Dating 4 the Disabled website offers social networking tools to aid in communication for adults with physical disabilities. Thank you BlindDater from the bottom of our hearts! Sara SoonSanta Monica, CA I have always been skeptical on using online dating sites, especially the free ones because they normally have some hidden agenda. However, BlindDater has been wonderful from the start and I have never felt anything else than gratitude for the site.
Patric BrentBoston, MA It took me a long time to find an online dating site that makes us gay people feel safe and accepted. I promise you that I have seen some shady sites, and no one is a good place for gay people to find true love. BlindDater made is so simple for me and I really love how they focus on promoting the inner qualities.
Happy that there is a place even for us old folks to find true love. Susie SamsonDenver, CO One of the most common questions that come across most of the women is where the things are heading to in my love life Ok, as long as you know where you stand before you even start the Valentine's Day, I think you're gonna be A-Ok.
And if she stayed married to you for this long, I wouldn't imagine that it would come as a surprise the Valentine's Day disappointments. I don't know if I like that. Stay married to you this long story. I don't know if that's a good way of putting it.
Oh, wait, let's talk about actions. I'm in so much trouble.
You should probably try to do something or actually do something nice for her. I mean, as a girl, or just as a person actually, in general, someone doing something for or with me experience is actually something far better than something actual than a gift.
Although jewelry is always a good gift. Maybe I should do something for my girls too. You should do something for your daughters too.
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Because it's setting a good example of what they should expect on Valentine's Day. Expect from a man in general. But that's a little sexist, I'll admit. But you're ok with that?
I think in any relationship whether you are dating or whether you're just in a friendship, I think both people should be equal partners with one another and do nice things for one another on holidays and I think to a large extent, knowing the history behind Valentine's Day, the fact that it started with a beheading, I mean, tends to put a little bit of damper on the actual day itself for people.
But Hallmark doesn't seem to mind too much. Do you find dating as a blind person a little different, Cara? Um, you know, I really don't think it's that much different.
I think you run into the same struggles, some of the same great things. In any good relationship, you learn how to be flexible. And as a person with a disability, I think that's one thing you start with your life is how to be flexible, how to understand that there's a way to do everything. You just have to figure it out. I mean you have a person that's going to pick you up on a date and then you're like 'oh, I can't do this.
I have to do something else instead. And making it work, that's just like marriage, you know. You gotta make it work. I don't know Harley Thomas. You're the married one. How many - what? How many - I was going to say, how many days have you been married? I need to dig into your lovelife a little bit. My love life is not for discussion today, I don't think. I think it's more important we learn more about blind dating more than Harley. That's what we're here for. That's why I love having you here on the show.
Because I get little jibs in where I can. And we've worked so hard to set up a special guest on blind dating. I'm ready to hear from her. I'm tired of hearing about your love life. Go ahead and ask her a question.
I am going to ask her all kinds of questions about her love life too and blind dating. What's better than that for Valentine's Day? We are going to make a call to Empish Thomas and learn a little bit more about her and how she is helping the blind community date and have love.
Love and dating is different, right? I dunno, I don't think you start off loving somebody but let's see what she has to say. She's probably more the expert than I am. Well, thanks so much for taking some time out of your day to talk with us today. We really, you know, came upon your blog and we are just really interested in what you had to say and wanted to hear a little bit more and share with our listeners. K, I'd be happy to do that. And you know one of the things Cara and I were talking about before we called you is really how does a blind person really get into the dating game?
Cara wants to know if blind people dating brings a whole new definition, and I'm not going to say it but I'm gonna let her say it. Ok, I get to say it since I'm the one that has a visual impairment. I say that blind dating gives a whole new meaning to blind dating. Or the blind date. Oh man, I messed that up. The intent was there. It is late on a Friday. I think I do know what you mean. Ya, it does because I was sighted for about 25 years. I lost my vision in my early 20s. So you know when you are sighted, you can see the person you are dating, have eye contact, look at them across the room.
Body language plays a big part. You can check somebody out, that kind of thing. Back in the day, we could exchange numbers on paper. Now you can do things with your cellphone and things like that. But a guy could write his number down and give it to you.
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Well, if you are visually-impaired or blind then that doesn't quite work so well. But a lot of visual things that happen when you are interacting that someone who has limited vision issues can miss out on. So you have to kind of figure out another way to kind of work around some of that stuff. And it can be a little tricky. Plus, there's a lot of social ideas, societal ideals about dating someone with a disability, positive and negative or otherwise.
You have to kind of have to deal with Cara is nodding her head right now. Just so you know. I didn't want to interrupt but I completely agree. I couldn't agree more on that. There's some misnomers on things that you may have to navigate around that people may make assumptions about you because you have a disability that you have to tackle when you are looking at dating someone.
Yeah, so just to kind of piggy back on that. I really couldn't agree more. I mean as a person with a disability, I think I've encountered those in romantic settings that think that maybe it's not quite as much of an equal partnership because I'm coming at it with a disability versus you know being with somebody but you know what, everybody has something going on. So you know, I can definitely relate to what you're saying on that and I think probably most of our listeners can as well.
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Empish, for our listening audience, can you take a minute and kind of tell folks what you do for a career and why we called you. There's a reason we called you. I'm in the Atlanta area and I work at a vision rehabilitation center here in Atlanta. So I do work helping people who are visually-impaired, newly blind and visually-impaired and what I do is public education and community outreach. So I kind of do like PR and marketing in a sense.
I work with the website. I help out with the newsletter. I work with our blog and I also do presentations and public speaking. I also do vendor fairs. I'll be doing one tomorrow for Foundation for Fighting Blindness.
I'll be doing a vendor table there and handing out literature, talking about the organization that I work for, getting the word out about what we do and how we can help people who just lost their vision and how they can be more independent, get their life back, get back on their feet.
That kind of thing. On the side, I volunteer for VisionAware. That's where you guys saw the blog post where I'm a peer adviser. So a bunch of us get together and we come up with different ideas on topics and things to put on Vision Aware. We are all visually impaired all over the country and also international. We have some peer advisers that are in Australia and other places. And we get together once a month on a conference call to kind of come up with topics, ideas, and things that we think people would want to know about.
It's been a really rewarding experience because it adds to resources and information and that personal objective of finding information for someone who is visually impaired but hearing these stories that are written by people who are also visually impaired and about their day to day life.
So I do that on a volunteer aside from my regular job.