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"So I was dating nothing but cougars, nonstop," Gosse says. He adds that it's not difficult for young guys to attract older women as long as. ADMIT it, you've probably wondered what cougars – and we are not his middle -aged boss cavort with younger men in a Sunshine Coast Coles store. years younger than herself whom she met on a "speed dating" event on the Coast. Home Loans · Maroochydore Weather · Newspapers in Education. 'I date younger guys because they make me feel prettier and more attractive,' Another woman admitted: 'I'm struggling with being a cougar.
We found Reed on backpage. It called for a guy age Reed is divorced, childless and Though she didn't label herself a cougar, Reed identifies completely with the term and was thrilled to regale Unreal with some of the most intimate details of her exploits in the wild.
It was minutes of storytelling that would make our mother who's 55 clap her hand to her chest and faint dead away. Oh, and all the while, Reed informed us, she was going commando. A strawberry blonde with wispy bangs, a Barbie-doll wave and plastic-framed, fuck-me librarian glasses, Reed boasts hourglass hips, toned, freckled calves and 38D breasts. No pinup, per se, but certainly no slouch. She says her last tryst lasted more than six hours; she never even slept before heading for work at Saint Louis Bread Co.
The date started at a gay bar in Soulard — something different. The exotic factor, Reed says, upped the titillation factor. We went from different pieces of furniture — couch, bed, shower — with cigarette breaks and cocktails. We threw some porn into the mix — young guys dig that. And toys, lots of toys, and that just keeps it going.
The last one, age 32, hung around for seven months. She used to drop him off at my house when she couldn't stand his shit any more. He was just a maniac in the sack. Tommy stole something from her and lied about it, Reed says.
She retaliated by calling his girlfriend and announcing, "Your boyfriend's been fucking me for months. They're a dime a dozen. She doesn't send photos via the Internet, preferring the anticipation of a blind date. PDAs public displays of affection are a no-no, excepting a subtle brush of her hair or hand.
Don't even think about ingratiating yourself with "honey" or "babe" before your first meeting. She likes a cologne-wearing guy with clean fingernails. What was I thinking?
I don't have any baggage, and because I have no baggage, my body is nice," she sums up. It began with an e-mail from a year-old woman who'd been an inveterate cougar for years without knowing there was a word for it, and, by the way, would we like to know how she's perfected the art? Frankly, it seemed a little too Heck, only a few weeks earlier Saturday Night Live had run a cougarific skit featuring three fortysomething TV hosts decked out in spray tans and slinky tops who waxed rhapsodic about "blowjoys" and the importance of the pelvic exercises known as Kegels.
Wearing a skin-tight cougartard, "guest" Cameron Diaz pawed a young boy toy in tennis whites, played by none other than Ashton Kutcher, who in real life is married to Demi Moore, fifteen years his senior. And last summer brought NBC's reality show Age of Love, pitting twentysomethings against fortysomethings vying for a year-old fella's heart. Entertainment ran an entire series called 25 Hottest Cougar Tales.
And ABC's Primetime ran a cougar segment three years ago. Not to mention the more than a dozen respectable daily newspapers that've run stories on the cougar phenomenon, all of them trumpeting Anne Bancroft in The Graduate as the beguiling precursor to a movement that today finds its apotheosis in Sex and the City star Kim Cattrall.
By God, no less an authority than the American Association of Retired Persons AARP weighed in this past February in its eponymous monthly magazine, pathetically relying on statistics from a survey to back up the "trend.
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To kill this cat once and for all, we hightailed it to the University City Public Library and checked out the tome Cougar, written by Canadian journalist Valerie Gibson.
Her face blushed beet-red. I'm 43 and single, and I had a year-old guy hit on me recently and I was telling a friend, and she was like, 'Ooh, are you a cougar?!
Is it necessary to name it?
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I mean, I think it comes down to women who wanted it both ways, with careers and families — they got their careers and now they don't have kids. All the men their age want to date younger women, and they're looking around and going, 'You know what, the young guys want it: Still, we were having trouble getting past the fact that yet another fortysomething St.
Louisan had just gotten hip to the term. Can you see how many people have checked out the book? Back at the office we logged on to the website urbancougar. We rubbed our sweaty palms together, clicked on "Missouri" and pictured ourself on a flying carpet to the nearest coug-lair.
Up came a restaurant called re: Time to go hunting. A single mom and artist who pays the rent by waiting tables, she penned the aforementioned e-mail that sent Unreal a-cougarin'. Two nights before our arrival at her pad, she brought home a year-old and her nosy neighbor, who was sitting outside, asked, "Is that your son? Her husband, from whom she separated inwas twelve years her junior.
Her most recent boyfriend was They split in March. He was pulling stupid shit like driving drunk, she says. Besides, he wanted kids. Capps was working one night not long after the breakup when she heard some male colleagues laughing about a couple of "cougars. The revelation was empowering.
Nobody's getting hurt in these relationships — and shhhh, nobody's gonna tell. But over the next two months, she tracked the personal ads on craigslist. She decided to give ol' cyberspace a spin. On May 20, a little after midnight, Capps placed her first ad, entitled "Cougar looking for young stud. The first reply, which popped in mere minutes later, came from a "tall skinny white 33 year old church pastor, brown hair, green eyes, witty, godly and well hung Instead, she watched as a dozen more e-mails poured in.
Respondents ranged in age from 18 to Many sent photos of themselves. Six days later Capps posted a new ad, aiming to home in on her type: She struck up some e-mail relationships, went on several dates and summoned one fellow, 26, to her home. Dissatisfied by their initial tryst — he was bossy in the sack — Capps rebuffed his subsequent and graphic e-come-ons.
But she was hooked on the hunt. These days, she reports, she's working on organizing a cougar-themed speed-dating event.
I think anyone who looks down their nose at it feels a tinge of jealousy. As Unreal learned through many an outing this past month, they don't go out after tornado warnings or during thunderstorms.
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On the bar scene, they run in packs and tend to hibernate Saturday through Tuesday. Brio, in Frontenac, is rumored to be a sure bet Wednesday through Friday, though pedigree prevails.
Harry's, downtown, is hit-and-miss. Beware the broads circle-dancing, purses stacked on the pavement. It may scream Cougar Central, but it's likely to be an old ladies' night out. Strip malls in Chesterfield dominate on Wednesday nights, and once a month cougars congregate at Parties in the Park in Clayton, then around Cardwell's afterward.
But Thursday is definitely coug day. In the city the party begins at Failoni's on Manchester Avenue at about 6 p. Cougars looooove live music.
We found them there recently in white jorts and jean dresses, wearing spiked heels and mucho mousse, drinking cherry bombs and blowjob shots. Louis Magazine and Alive. Unreal is chaperoned by Cindy Capps and a woman named Sherry, who'd seen an online ad Capps placed in search of fellow cougars.
I'm not here to get laid, but I am curious. I guess it's nice to know that I've got other options than a year-old. Firefighters and bikers congregate outside. A young stud grabs Capps' buttocks as she walks in. At JackSons' on this night, the prowling cougar can find everything from a metrosexual plastic surgeon to a meaty demolition man.'Extreme Cougar Wives': Older Women Dating Young Men
The dance floor is a sweaty mess of long hair and miniskirts that seem to outnumber the young lads two to one. It's far too loud for conversation, but you can watch the cougars and their prey sign their ages to each other. Kind of like preschoolers learning to count. Unreal spots a face we recognize at the bar: Ah, if we could only pick his cougar-centric brain for a minute.
Instead, it is one long hour, watching him cup his cougar's tail as he nuzzles his head in her neckline. Having found the bar scene hard to, um, penetrate, Unreal posts online ads of our own. One day, my first much younger boyfriend texted me: Have you ever seen the movie Say Anything? That movie was life when I was in high school. He was born the year I graduated high school. Lots of people born in the 80s romanticize the era. They have no idea what it was really like to have a doddering old fogey president who joked about bombing the Soviet Union and diddled while people died of AIDS.
Or how to make a budget. Or how not to get arrested for drinking too much. Many of them have no clue about universal relationship boundaries. I realized later he was keeping her as a back-up. We had many arguments about this girl, as she seemed to be completely obsessed with him. He had a drinking problem, and that was the one insurmountable obstacle. I got a little tired of having to be the sober, responsible one who ends up talking police out of arresting my boyfriend when he went off on a bender.
For every life lesson you teach them, you learn something in return. Although it may not be what you expect. One of the funnest things about dating younger is staying up to speed with youth culture.
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When you hang out with younger people, you start to see things with their eyes, which is very cool. As for my family. I was a goth back in college. I travelled across the country twice.
Dating someone nearly 20 years younger barely elicited a reaction from people who know me. But overall, they were very accepting, while also being understandably concerned about the emotional damage such relationships might cause when they ended. I know there are never any guarantees.